*** NEW BEGINNINGS***

**HAVE A SAFE & BLESSED NEW YEARS TO THE WORLD**
New BEGINNINGS & CATCHING UP ON SOME MUCH NEEDED R&R~CATCHING UP WITH NEW TECHNOLOGY SO PLS FORGIVE ME & LET GO BECAUSE I AM MAKING A COME BACK & IT WILL BE EXPLOSIVE!!!
Stay tuned & Relieve the Stress, Forget the Mess, & Leave the Useless!

**Juswhoim

SWEEP THAT UNDER THE OTHER RUG

"What Do You Avoid"

I can go on many topics, but Politics is one thing I do avoid, religion is also a touchy subject, marriage, family issues, sexual orient, & social media.

There are things we can not avoid.  our daily lives exisit of bills, keeping a roof over your family's head, money and the list goes on.  I have not been able to write blogs on a daily basis as I would like to.  I have become so involved in helping to find solutions and implement programs along with several organizations.  Besides work, home, family life and keeping up on my studies it has been challenging, but I have learned to not overwhelm myself trying to do it all.  But, my involvement in OUR YOUTHS and an epidemic that has spreading like a wildfire has been my main focus these days.  I have been BLESSED to actually began doing Direct Practice in my Field of study. As a Youth Advocate/Counselor ; it is my obligation to make as many people aware of what is going on in our own homes, family and friends lives and share information I am experiencing and learning.

A few months ago, I begin volunteer at an Mental Health and Drug abuse facility for youths. It was heart-warmth to hear a young man who was battling with not only a drug addiction, but trying to also sale drugs to help his father who was  making minimum wage. To tell me on my first day, that I was like a "breath of fresh air".

I am asking EVERYONE of my Audience, readers, supporters ...AND especially, PARENTS TO WATCH YOUR CHILDREN~ Observe any unusal behavior, ask questions, find someone to support you, become a snooping and open-minded parent.  We are living in different times and a new generation.  A generation where peer pressure is at its all time high!  We are seeing numerous complaints throughout our nation on "BULLYING".  It is a MAJOR problem!  It has gone to the extreme where we are having children committing suicide, children no longer want to attend school and are being home schooled.  We hear about it, but many ignore because we think it can not happen in our homes.  

"NOT MY CHILD, I KNOW WHAT MY CHILD IS DOING". 

**PLEASE TAKE THAT THOUGHT OUT OF YOUR MIND BEFORE YOU END UP TELLING YOUR STORY AND BEFORE IT IS TO LATE.**

Another alarming epidemic is "PRESCRIPTION DRUGS".  Our world has become the Capital of prescription drug abuse.  We can go to our doctors and complain about anything and BLAM! That doctor does not hesitate putting us on a medication. 

 #1~ It is ALL ABOUT PROFIT.  Our Country thrives on not what is best for us, but how valuable we are.  Each time we visit the doctors, each time we make them and insurance companies money. Are value is based on what or how much we cost and our net worth is their profit.  

WE ARE IN THE ERA of the NEW RECESSION and that has caused MAJOR DEPRESSION.  So there has been an increase in what is now a major disorder "depression and anxiety". So what does your doctor do? Place you on more medication.  More people are applying for disability at alarming  rates. Count how many times you see a commercial a law firm promising to get us disability benefits. Now ask yourself, 
where are our youths getting their fix? From home, relatives, friends, friends that have family members on medication or connections in school and connections that may surprise you (classmates and teachers).
I have attended so many seminars and heard so many tragic stories of youths using prescription medication. Not saying parents are not monitoring their children, but I listened to a few parents that have lost their children, have placed not one, but two or more children in rehabs and these parents have not just lost their children, but they have lost themselves. They have blamed themselves and crying for help, but also trying to place blames on schools instead of looking for other resour.  

I've heard them expeess how they feel it should be the responsibilities of schools to educate these kids of the dangers of drugs.  

**The school can only do so much and Education is key**but, education can also take place at home. 

It is all of our  responsibilities. You can have your children in all the sports, musical classes, ballet, karate lessons and think their is not a problem because we oir keeping them so active that it's no way they have time to indulge in drugs. It sadden me to hear families tell their stories and how they had no clue that their child has been indulging in drugs since they were 8 years old or younger.  They see their child as being this great athletic and not a drug abusers . Why, because they are the captain of the  football team and guess what? Those team members are aware and some of those teammates are also using or providing.  

The saddest part is not realizing until that same child is continuously using and you start noticing some changes, but by now they are going into adolescent years and the problem has gotten out of control.  That same child has been going in your medicine cabinets, pocketbooks, knows where you keep your supplies and we are still thinking there is nothing wrong.  Yes, we have noticed that their attitude has changed, they are just tired, stressed trying to keep up on their studies and anything they may be involved in at school.

I hardly remember having peer pressure, but in my day and age.  There was pressure such as; being in the in-crowd, smoking cigarettes, smoking weed, and yes, the most I heard as far as a drug was ACID and I had no ideal what it was or what it looked like and was not curious to find out nor did I care about popularity.  that was then and this is now.

I am proud to be part of many awareness leagues and orgorganizations that are plaguing our nations and being part of doing some thing that matters. Some things we can not continue to "Sweep Under Another Rug".

It can not be ignored. It's REAL just as real as facing facts that we are still a divided and injustice system. As real as same sex marriage, as real as billions of people who are affected with HIV/AIDS [and millions who do not know they are affected], bipolor disorders, multiple personalities,  as real as schizophrenia. 

We all have stereotypes against any individuals that we feel does not fit in society because we believe people want to be drug addicts or have mental disorders that we believe is an excuse. It is as real as PTD {post traumatic depression}. 

Some people's disorders can be managed many ways without medications, but some can not. 

Look at the news, read, and stay informed of all the devastating deaths of mothers and fathers killing their children or starving their children because they have not taking their medications. 

Medications have become a security blanket an addiction. 

What happened to alternative traditional therapy.  Take away deadly medications and try herbal methods? 

We are losing loved ones, celebrities that we watch on our favorite shows not realizing that they are suffering and calling out for help, but didn't know HOW to ask for help because of shame or embarrassment. 

So how or what can we do? Open our minds, our hearts, educate, and not be in denial. Let's tackle these issues and concerns before they become a MAJOR Problem. Let's not wait until another Government Shut-down where we all feel the crunch and wait till it gets out of control and than choose to take action. LET'S TAKE ACTION NOW, BEFORE WE LOSE MORE OF OURSELVES. 

"Definition of What Defines Us"

It's not how we look, how we dress, how much we pay for our outfits, who you are, but what you believe in.
IT'S BIGGER THAN ALL OF US~IT IS WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE,WHAT YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT ...
SO I AM SHARING MY PASSION, MY DREAMS, MY SUCCESS, MY ACCOMPLISHMENTS, MY MISSION BECAUSE...  IT'S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT ME.. IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU..IT'S ABOUT "ALL OF US". 
One Nation and Giving the Best you Got...so this is what DEFINES ME with ALL OF US.

"I DO or Don't I"

THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN COMPARE TO HAVING THE ONE YOU LOVE FINALLY PROPOSE TO YOU.. ONLY OTHER ACCOMPLISHMENT IS SEEING THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILD.

We all go through life wondering what career or path we want to take in life, do we want to have children and do I want to get married.  The world has changed and those traditional theories have somewhat resolved into this new day ERA of the Millennium.  Some women & men are having children at an older age, whereas; before there was pressure from family members and society.  If you were close to 30 and no husband or children, you were considered an "OLD MAID".  Now some, choose to have a career first before bearing children. But we do not know when or how fast you may advance in your career & what about being financially equipped?  Babies & children are VERY costly. 
Now that you have achieved the level of success to your expectation, what about companionship.  Most people tend to focus so much on their life& throw themselves in their career that they do not have a social life.  Now, you have the success & no one to share it with.  Now the clock is ticking and your ready to build a future.  This consist of a finding a mate & producing children. You  begin the search process and may have been off the scene for quite some time  so searching for "THE ONE" is your main goal. 
You look back at your previous relationships and after trying the club scene, you realize that is not the greatest place to meet your future mate.  For GOD SAKE! You are looking for "THAT ONE" that has all the qualities you are looking for.  You realize that starting a relationship at work is also not the best ideal  Now you have resorted to blind dates, sexless nights, & social media sites.  You run into several weirdos & finally you think you have met "THE ONE".  Until, you find out that person is not who you think they are or the inevitable happens (their already in a relationship or married).






It takes time to get to know someone, but your start feeling like you are running out of time.  You may resort back to what I refer to as a "Throwback".  A relationship you were in at one time and basically thought long & hard on the best candidate, but you are soon reminded, why that relationship ended.
Women have options; surrogates, adoption, In Vitro Fertilization, freezing eggs, but you want to do it the old fashion way.  Finding your true love! You gone through several relationships and a couple or a few you may have thought they were the ones. But, there is no better feeling in finding "THAT ONE".  Someone you feel you have gotten to know pretty well, the romance, the affection, the support, the charm, the laughter and before you know it, time has passed and both of you are thinking "what is next".
Most women are waiting to hear those words or at least that commitment and the engagement & before he can pop the question, you are already saying "I DO"!
The ring is beautiful, but sometimes you expected more, but at this point; it doesn't matter because you have a fiance.  You are now engaged &can not wait to share this milestone to the WORLD.


NOW, things are starting to get a little bumpy.  The relationship may not be living up to our expectations.  They say that marriage changes a person.  The day that ring is placed on your finger.  You gain this confidence, your thinking to yourself "I got her/him". We're going to live happily ever after. You did all the preparations for the wedding or now you are married and what he/she use to do, has changed. Then all of a sudden, the relationship is just not working out.
This topic has been a very controversy topic lately {before the government} shut done.  If the engagement or marriage dissolves, Should the woman/man return the RING!! The symbol of your love that once was cherished and unforgettable. 

I  recently found a couple a mementos that are worth good money.  I thought should I pawn it, that quickly left my thoughts.  I remember the last few rings I acquired over the years, I eventually stop putting them on and gave it to my daughters (BIG MISTAKE) she didn't cherish them like I thought she would.  But, how could I expect her to? They had symbolic meaning to me!  Some people say you are still holding on.  I do not believe that to be true.  I feel that it was a gift and besides that.  It meant something to me. 

Some people are agreeing if the marriage or relationship is dissolved that it should be returned.  There are a few cases that people are actually fighting & suing the other person to return the ring and other valuables that were given.  At some degree, it is like a prenuptial agreement and it can depend on how much the items cost.   If it is not written, notarized or made clear~HELL2DANIZZOT...YOU ARE THE WEAKEST LINK.  I EARNED THOSE THINGS, YOU GAVE IT TO ME FOR BETTER OR WORST & I AM KEEPING IT!

Is it worth the argument or headache? I figure, it can't be anymore stressful than breaking up or all the previous arguments.  I will even compromise, we can sell the ring & split the money, but what you will not do, is give it to the next chick. Whether you are so over it, it still was given to YOU. It makes you think of the good times you shared, but also it makes you think of the bad and that's when you take the ring  and put it back in its original box and put it up...waaayyy back in the closet somewhere.  What I think is unhealthy is still wearing the ring after the break up and it is clear that their will be no reconciliation.

SO NO "I DO NOT" THINK THE RING SHOULD BE RETURNED TO SENDER. THE ONLY THING YOU WILL GET IN RETURN IS UNPAID BILLS THAT YOU LEFT.

**AS ALWAYS~THESE ARE STRICTLY MY OPINION AND IS NOT TO INFLUENCE, DISCOURAGE NOR ENCOURAGE MY THOUGHTS**

 

 LOVE..HAPPINESS & PEACE!

 

"DJ PLEASE PICK UP YOUR PHONE ON THE REQUEST LINE"

"The Party Must Goes On"

I hear many people saying how they use to party before they had a child or children, party life is not the same, some just never been into the club scene,  and it is to costly.

I am still a party animal, even going through raising a child and being a wife.  I slowed down, but the PARTY MUST GO ON!  Some people seek satisfaction in going out to clubs to meet people.  I can say that is not my goal, but don't get me wrong, you go out to one of your favorite clubs and  you will see some hot guys and have your eyes set on him and each time you see him, you are telling your friends "there he is", your heart flutters and your nerves may get the best of you.  If you see that he may also look at you as much as you have been checking him out.  You almost break out into a sweat or want to faint.  Numbers are exchanged and you never know what may happen from their.  But far as me, I may look & yes if you are FINE or remotely my type & we end up looking at each other eye to eye.  I will not look in your direction for the rest of the night and please do not approach me unless it's business.  I will run...there are plenty available women there so please look elsewhere.

Now that I am older, I go to relieve stress, listen to the music, entertain, and have fun with the people I have met throughout the years, I hang out with my family because every moment is especially cherished.  But, there is nothing like a good DJ!  The DJ makes the party!

I hear many people say how they don't go out anymore to clubs, it's not the same, it cost too much. They are making parties more affordable.  They have Supporters Appreciation parties with free give-a-ways, (they just ought to, especially if you been supporting & spending money for years to party) & my favorite; BYOB (Bring your own bottle).  Also, you may need to look for clubs that are age appropriate or a total different atmosphere. 

May be line dancing  may intrigue you.  I am a reggae fan and I have traveled to several Caribbean Islands just to go to the hottest clubs. I am a promoter for several DJs, artist, record labels, club owners, and reggae magazines and also been a part of a dance crew. I get many invites from as far as the UK to Canada.  So, it is also an incentive because me & my crew or requested to attend parties; it has its perks (free admissions, discounts, VIP service, free bottles & more), We connect with the DJs and hype up the crowd.  I hate to see when I enter a party and everyone is just standing around and not partying

***PSA*** If you are looking for a man/woman. a relationship or companionship...Please do not expect to find your dream man/woman in a club.  Let's just think for a moment; you meet a guy or a girl and exchange numbers & offered a drink.  You are not obligated to stay, dance or be stuck with that one person all night.  Keep it moving.  Also, it is a club...do not think you are the ONLY one this person has met & exchanged numbers with in the same night & if they are a regular..most likely they do this every time so do not become a victim of  Club relationships.  There are plenty of sites out here to meet someone.

I know many DJs, club owners and artist and have dated some in my younger years.  Understand that this comes along with many groupies.  So just be aware, but once again; it does have its Perks.  It is a very competitive industry so get to know the DJs because like I said, "DJs make the party".  I base whether I am going to attend parties, depending on what DJs are featured.  It is nothing worst going to a party and the DJ is not that great.  Just know I will not return if the DJ sucks!! I will not promote any artist or party DJs that just don't quite got what it takes.  I will encourage them to work on their skills.

In dance hall, the club scene is totally different. #1~ the party starts late
                                                                            #2~ the party is not over till the last person leaves (it will be daylight when you leave)                        #3~ You feel free & can dance or act silly all night (I think the fumes from all the weed also plays a part in the laughs)
                                                                             #4~ THE BAR NEVER CLOSES
                                                                             #5~ there is territories ( most regulars like to post up in a certain part of the club)
                                                                             #6~  know where to stand
 (if you cannot take the smoking, choose another area) You have sections; where you have your regulars, your VIP, where you won't catch a contact from all the weed, the freak section, the show-offs, the gangsters & gangstress, the players & playettes, the "I can't dance so I will sit or stand & try to look attractive or my feet hurt. (bring flats WOMEN).                                            
                                                                           #7~ the bar is bottle service
(depending on what type of party it is).   Lastly, I saved this for last for a reason;   
                                                                         
                                                                          #8 You will be lucky if there  is anywhere  to sit. 
So that means...PARTY!!
There are also Reggae Clash where several DJ and some may have several DJs in their crew.  The Clash is like a DJ battle.  Clash are an annual thing and there are different themes for reggae parties that are annual.  The theme may be a song quote or All White party, short short vs. mini skirts.  All these themes help to make more money and  yes, a FASHION SHOW.  Some people get their clothes made for certain parties and especially if their is a Prize for the "Best Dressed".  You will see some of the wildest outfits, people dressed like American artist.  It's been a couple times I thought I seen Usher.
I enjoy reggae because you feel free.  Most people, know & are big fans of Bob Marley.  Reggae music is controversial, it has a message and a meaning vs. Hip Hop anything goes!  As you get older, you see how music has changed and there is nothing wrong with being into Old Skol music.  There are many clubs that have Old Skol nights. I think they are the BEST! To go see people enjoying the music of their generations. 

So to ALL my DJs out there, please know your audience, practice makes perfect, the party depends on you.  Play music that make people want to get up & dance. Have a large variety of music, know how to mix accordingly, entertain your audience, just don't stand their and play, use the mic and do it because you LOVE to. To my fake promoters, BS record companies, scams & trash ass artist...I am going to say this as nice as possible...PLEASE SIT YO ASS DOWN! You will be exposed if I have to call out names, I will.

I enjoy dancing because it is a work-out..if you don't move it, you will lose it.  People have resorted back to house parties, especially in NY.  New York will make their basements into a club.  Many people are scared of the violence that may occur. 

**PSA** DO NOT STAY AT THE END, LEAVE THE PARTY BEFORE THE LET OUT, THERE IS NOTHING ELSE TO SEE...DO NOT GO TO A CLUB THAT DOES NOT CHECK FOR I.D. OR DOES NOT HAVE HIGHLY TRAINED SECURITY..THERE ARE MANY CLUBS THAT HIRE ACTUAL POLICE OFFICERS OR SECURITY THAT IS EQUIVALENT TO AN OFFICER & IF IT IS A CLUB THAT VIOLENCE DOES OCCUR~~DO NOT GO BACK TO THAT CLUB!! IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT, DO NOT TRY TO IMPRESS ANYONE..YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO POP CHAMPAGNE..

I am not a drinker, I drink sociable and IDC (I don't care) if it isn't BYOB...I bring my flask.
I live life to the fullest & have SO many memories and I may not go out like I use to because I have a other obligations.  But after working hard all week, keeping up with schoolwork, & stressful moments...You need a girls night out! Yup...when you get older other things become less important, but TRUST ME..I still can drop it low, I just bring it back up slow.  LOL

PEACE & LOVE****

 

***I WOULD LIKE TO APOLOGIZE 2 MY AUDIENCE...SORRY I HAVE NOT BEEN DOING MY DAILY BLOGS***

IT IS THIS THING CALLED "LIFE"...HEALTH...ENTERTAINING..SCHOOL..STUDYING..G.T.F.O.H. (Get the Fuck Outta Here) .....WTF (What the fuck)...COUNSELING....COACHING...SAY WHAT...APPOINTMENTS PERSONAL/BUSINESS..OTHER SOCIAL MEDIA..  COOKING...SHOPPING  (I went hard)MY STRESS RELIEVERS (secret)....IF YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND~YOU HAVE NO LIFE!!!

I HAVE SO MUCH TO TELL YOU GUYS!!!! STAYED TUNED....ALLERGY SEASON & HEAD THERAPY.... YUP!!!! I SAID IT~ WHO ELSE AM I GOING TO TALK TO ABOUT ME BESIDE GOD!

STAY TUNED....I BE BACK LATER & I WILL BE WRITING BLOGS B2B (Back to Back)

 "The Gift of Life or Reality"

It's been a moment since my last blog.  Sometimes Real Life takes control and you have to take time out to readjust, grab control or decide what we must do. 

Life has its ups & downs, life is a gift, but so OFTEN we take it for GRANTED.  We hear the term; Life is not fair or why do I get the end f the stick.  Whoever said that Life was going to be fair?  There is no such thing as a "PERFECT LIFE".  We forget that no matter how much we do in life whether it is to get a job we really want, that promotion we deserve,  give all we got to get what we want, treat others as we would like to be treated or always there for when someone needs us.

So why do we get so upset when things do not go the way we expect?  Sometimes our expectations are what we want and not reality.  Some people have had a rough life from childhood for many reasons; they may have come from an abusive household, parents on drugs, a single parent household, living in poverty, and the list can go on.  I can not recall not having anything, but fun through my childhood and adolescent years.  I never heard my parents argue, complain or stress over bills.  Now, when I look today and see all the difference from when I was growing up and look at so many children & adolescents today.  I see sadness, stress, pressure,  and hopelessness. 

I recently applied to a new job site that has to do with my major (Human Services).  Human Service is a wide spread field.  Human Services can become a counselor, social workers, administration for nursing home facilities, work with drug & alcohol patients, and plenty of other opportunities.  I chose to work with youths.  I did not want to work with adults or drug and alcohol abuse.  The place I recently applied for is a youth center for youths from 11-18 and they have Mental Health and Drug addictions.  I was not hesitant because it was still working with youths and even though they still may have a drug or mental issues, I felt I could still be a role model or somehow be a great asset to the company and give these children some hope.











The first day I attended was to see if I would be able to handle or decide if this was right  for me.  I sat in a day program.  The day program is for children who have been either expelled from school because of behavior, dropped out of school, been on & off drugs, come from households where all they saw were parents, siblings and other family members that have been on drugs or suffered with mental health.  I had a chance to sit in two classes that the company offers.  Anger Management and Expressive Art.  I heard stories of young children 15-16  that sniffed and shot up heroine, children who left school to sell drugs and also used.  But what I saw were kids, that needed to feel safe, that needed to know that there are people who care and want to help and  needed to know that this does not have to be their lives, but it is REALITY!


Some of the children did not want to participate, but it is our job as counselors  is to encourage them to participate.  I felt a sense of belonging and I knew I could  be their encouragement or that role model.  Before I left,  one of the young men that had not to long ago entered the program told me that "I was like a breath of fresh air because most of the counselors were just there, but with me  living in different places and in the inner cities, I was able to relate more".  These words encouraged me.  I looked at everything I been going through lately and when I am down, I think how things could ALWAYS be worst, but I reflect back to the children I have worked with and some of the things they have said to me; brings back LIFE in me.  It warms my heart and when I sit down and share my experience with my counselors and school advisor and to hear them tell me, that this meant this child felt safe with me and I am made to do this and MOST OF ALL; I am going to do exceptionally well in this field.  REALITY sets in  and I remember what LIFE is all about.

It is way bigger than what I am going through, what I am going through is a self-worth and deciding what path I have travelled and continue to ask GOD to guide me, but mainly I know now for sure; I am here to make a difference and I do not need others to valid, would I like to hear or be acknowledge? Yes, but I realized that the acknowledgement

does not have to be from the people who I expected to be in my corner, just like the children I am working with.  They are looking for validation through loved ones.  No one owes you anything, your best and worst critics can be a complete stranger, but YOU must face REALITY and acknowledge yourself  and learn to value your LIFE as the MOST VALUABLE GIFT.

"YES I LOVE STRESS"

What is your definition of stress? We are hearing so many people saying, "Life is too short".  After we have experienced so much trauma and death of close friends and family.  Everyone says they want to live life to the fullest.  Life is Life.  It has its ups & downs, sadness, happiness, and just when you think you are going through something so horrifying, we see the news and hear stories of children battling an fatal illness and somehow, we reposition ourselves and see that our lives is GRAND compared to many others.  Some people our homeless or do not know where there next meal is coming from, and here we are with a belly full, a bed and a roof over our heads.  It may not be your dream home, but it's your home.  It may not be the life you expected or planned, but you have LIFE.

S~ Some

T~ Time

R~ Relax 

E~ Energize

S~ Strategies

S~ Success

Everyday we hear the word STRESS and ways to cope with STRESS, but who ever said that STRESS is a bad thing,  Why do we look at everything as a negative source.  I refuse to look at things in a negative light any longer, but decided to use a different  type of light bulb.  I will take things and turn it into a positive resource.  STRESS is part of life, but it depends on how or what we make of it.  Will we let STRESS consume our lives, we should because we will learn to take it as it is and deal with it in another meaning.
As I have just completed Human Development, I have learned what human, development, stress, depression and mostly; LIFE and life span from Infancy until Death.  From the beginning of birth and how we related and communicate to our new found WORLD  and to facing the END.
Think of all the things you have seen, experienced, going through, lived, adapted to new surroundings and then, imagine yourself facing what occurs as we age. 
I thank GOD for allowing me the opportunity to be in the Health care Field at all angles and getting to meet some very impressive, experienced and full of life individuals.  Once I worked around, Alzheimer patients, I enjoyed it even more.  One day, they are 85 and the next day they are 15.  I remember many of our residents telling me not to get old.  Does STRESS go away as we age? Yes.
Depression may even take place, but these residents tell you stories and dress fancy just to come eat a meal and that may be the highlight of their day.  I became close too many and learned to LISTEN because one day, WE ALL will become older, wiser and  yes, my definition of STRESS may decrease, but until then, I will continue to STRESS.

"Plan to Evacuate"

Have you ever just wanted to run far away & just start over again...What would you take...what will you leave behind & If you have children, would you take them?

Have you ever felt trapped and can not see away out? What would you do in life differently & why?  I believe everything is done at a specific time with some planning.  I do not like to make plans because plans are made to be broken (just like a promise).  I like to just go with the flow.  I have consider many, TOO MANY times of leaving & starting over again, a million miles away, take on a new identity, somewhere so distant that no one could not find me.  A place of all the beauties in life that I adore, tranquility and find my new destiny.  One day, I keep telling myself...one day.  But because of the closeness & love for my family & mainly my parents is why I still remain. 

I have felt trapped, I have been trapped, but sometimes we trap ourselves and are scared to face life events.  What is going to happen next, how am I going make it, etc...questions you keep asking yourself.  These I look at as excuses that are really are fears that we do not want to face.  IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO START OVER.  I have had a beautiful life.  I am going to write my next blog based on YOUR LIFE.  Just to prepare you, ask yourself if you were to leave this Earth today is there any regrets or what would you do differently?  I will let you think on that one for awhile.

Where was I, Oooo, I remember...What is holding you back from leaving or starting over., why do we stay in situations that are necessarily not healthy for us? Why does a person stay in an abusive relationships? Why are we afraid to move on? Do you realize staying in a bad or any situation is by choice? We rule our own decisions, are own lives and for every response there is a cause and effect , reasoning, thought process, but do we always make the right decisions? HELL NO!! I dare someone to say they have made the right decisions in every aspect of their lives.  You may believe you have or did at that particular moment in time, but when you think back, is there not a  little piece of you saying,  I should've, could've did it this way or do you have more of a Ooh well & don't dwell over it, basically it is what it is.
Do you know your Type, I am not talking about your blood type.  Are you a Type A or Type B? I am going to leave a link.  This link is a personality test and you will know what Type of person you are. One Type is more competitive, harder on themselves, aggressive, challenging and the other is; more laid back and does not worry over certain things.  Why & what does this have to do with this blog? This personality test will answer some of the questions you may have not known about yourself, but as soon as you complete the test  and the end results, you will say...Wow, that is me! This determines why we don't take chances or do take chances. You can be both Types in some ways, after  you learn more will it help you out if you are in a situation and begin to execute a plan, will you evacuate?

I do believe their is another life awaiting for me.  It is not running away, I am walking away.  You are suppose to have a "Plan to Evacuate" in your household, in case of emergency.  Plans do not always go the way we planned it, neither does life.  No one owes you anything, except yourself.  I can not recall the last time I had a dream, because I live it.  EXPECT THE UNEPECTED~LEARN SOME THING NEW EACH DAY~READ~COMPHREND & STAND FOR WHAT YOU FEEL STRONGLY OPINIONED ABOUT & YOU WILL "EVACATE YOUR PLAN".

www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win

"WORLD OF TECHNO"

I never thought we would see the days of Technology Takeover...Slowly, we have watch the times change.  Computers & CyberWorld  has taken over.

 I remember watching the "Jetsons" and in those days, we did not have a computer.  So the Jetsons were soooo  far out & futuristic that I remember saying, "I couldn't wait to see those days, I won't have to do anything because a robot does it all."

But on the flip side....we also watched the "Flintstones".  Caveman days and I couldn't imagine or wondered how those days exist.  I just laughed and would say I know I  would not live in that way.  I  just figured it was a cartoon and was funny.  Now in some sense, my generations and many generations before & after  us came from the "Flintstones" Era.  The children today laugh at any object we had compared to what they have today; MP3 players, I-pads, I-phones, I-pods, laptops, desktops, DVR... I will not continue because It is making my head spin and trying to keep up is  almost impossible.

Our children, young adults, middle aged  & even some of the late adulthood, walk around staring at some type of techno devices.  We need to monitor our children cell phones because they have now been exposed to Cyberspace and SEX TEX {taken very provocative pictures & sending it through text}.  We have exposed ourselves and enter a very strange world.  A World that cam upon us & natural selection automatically took place.  How is it that we can afford all these electronic devices & crying about , how are we going pay a bill?  Did we have a chose or were we forced? How did these devices become part of our daily lives? AND worst of all, part of our household budget? Tell the truth...if you do not have your cellphone, do you not go CRAZY looking for it or feel lost without?

How & who was responsible for all theses changes? Barack Obama {thought  I throw him in since we blame him for so many things), the government, scientist? I recall seeing or hearing the announcement of having to go get a special box in order for your television to work.  Huh? All those years , I held on to antennas (rabbit ears) moving them around , back & forth until the TV was clear enough to see.  My sister & I was the remote control.  Now, I have a one year old Great niece, that has taught me features on my cellphone that I had NO  CLUE it could do!

Must I go there... Yes, cause if you haven't noticed, it is not much I  WON"T say.  The social sites... We have become CONDITIONED!! We fell for all of this.  Social sites have ruined relationships, marriages, friendships and exposed many.  The attention seekers, the social addict, the tell all my business, & the pretender.  Social networks & social games where you are just an avatar have lead to intimacy, dating, cheating , losing your job& make you live in a make believe world.   That becomes our daily lives.  The further we go in the future the more frighten it becomes.  I am slowly pulling myself away from certain social sites.  It is all about business with me at this point & inspirational quotes when I do post.  I always been a VERY private person & it is some things we will never reveal; just take it to your grave.  Some of the stuff I see, is hilarious, entertaining, not much surprises or shock me anymore, but just telling your personal life & I am not judging NO WAY NO HOW because I have made great acquaintances with many people through social networks.  But I still have morals and disbelief, I can not reveal but so much to Cyber World.  I reveal how I feel and I occupy my time so I do not visit the forbidden; chat rooms, dating sites, following others (instagrams or twitter) & like I have said before.  The well renounce FACEBOOK....you ONLY see faces, but do not now the story in everyone you have befriend because everyone there is always a story, but in order to know the story, YOU MUST READ THE BOOK!

***(THIS IS NOT TO ENCOURAGE OR DISCOURAGE YOUR BELIEFS.  THESE ARE THOUGHTS & FEELINGS BASED ON REALITY..MINES OR OTHERS)***

IT'S A STORY TO BE TOLD...STAY TUNED

DOCUMENTARY COMING SOON...........

THE GREATEST DECEPTION

When you see the word "DECEPTION" what comes to mind?

Is it Infidelity, breaking a persons' trust, taken for granted, unappreciated, unworthy...I can continue to go on & on.  The worst feeling in the WORLD to me is taken my kindness for weakness, thinking I am Ray Charles (no disrespect), uneducated and mistaken for a fool.  I am not your average chick; some people like trash, they start believing & losing faith in themselves because of someone else's under achievements. I am a  little too deep for the AVeRaGe, something yOU maY Not ever been introduced to. 

I can be sassy, wild, laid back, ratchet, classy, not to flashy, smooth, intriguing, a mystery, impressive, expressive, compromise, loyal, responsible, trust-worthy, complicated, but NOT DUPLICATE.  I have a heart of GLITZ & GLAMOUR, I will give a person my last dollar (literally) and not think anything of it.  BUT PLEASE do not get it FUCKED UP, DO NOT TAKE FOR A FOOL OR THINK YOU ROYALTY because that is one of my mistakes.  Trying to make everyone feel comfortable and happy.  But it is not my job or my duty and once I feel DECEPTION...watch out for this SCORPIONS FATAL STING!!! I do not like to repeat myself and I give you plenty warning.  Now, that I am State Property.. Please believe me!! I'm a walking time bomb. Do not light or strike a nerve or match because I am a BOMB & when you push someone that has done so much for you.  That BOMB will eventually blow & the WORLD will know.  You will feel the raft, I do not take trash.  Trash stinks and where does it go? Out for the garbage man because I refuse to continue to smell your scent of DECEPTION.

NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT YOU LESS THAN YOU ARE~THEY ARE JUST SHOWING A REFLECTION OF WHO THEY REALLY ARE!!!!

"GUILTY OR NOT GUILT'

The biggest case in history since O.J. <<TRAYVON MARTIN>> what really happened, was it racial or was it justified? Trayvon is not here to tell his story because it is always three sides to a story.  Yours, mines & the truth.  Many opinions & other issues occurring around this case. Black on black crime & Racism vs. Justice.

It is a lot to be said and being a victim of a discrimination & harassment because of the color of my skin has changed my life.  Losing a brother and a cousin from gun violence, has also placed a big impact on my life.  People speculate, comment & jump to conclusions.  I tell them, if you have not been a victim and hear stories, DO NOT say you understand.  In my line of work & studies now as a Human Service Professional; we learned to say "I can relate", but as I counsel, I  am there to listen to my clients stories, I am not suppose to not be bias or judge, but I am there to LISTEN.
Everything that has happened in my life, took a toll on me mentally and physically.  It is a reoccurring situation.  As the state calls it, "I had a traumatic experience".  An experience I may NEVER get over! But I stood up for not just for myself, but for people who have been taking the abuse & ones that will come after me. 
Do I consider myself an Activist? Yes, I do.  My previous lawyer that helped me get my case in State & Federal courts; we partied ways, but before I left, he also complimented me by telling  me that I am a Great person, strong-minded, & Activist.  This is a man who was part of one the Greatest law firm; Johnny Cochran (may he continue to RIP).
I stood up because my rights were violated, I help others who did not know their rights & were violated, I helped the ones who were being abused become aware & stronger, I stood up because it was the right thing to do.  It affected my personal life as a mother & wife.  I became so determines, that I basically abandoned my duties as an Food Director and overnight became an Attorney. 
 I did the research, I wrote letters, I met with high profile officials, I took my fight all the way to Washington, D.C. to the Civil rights Organization.  People at my workplace told me I was wasting my time and wouldn't get anywhere.
I received a Right to Sue notice from the Civil rights Organization and Department of Labor in my state and they were found guilty for discrimination &  hostile work environment.  Then my co-workers asked how did I do it, no one ever got that far.  They weren't worth a response.
Who was found "GUILTY", they tried to make every attempt to break my faith so I would just walk away, questioned other employees about my life, make it look like they were the victims, but I refused to leave until I decided.  I decided it was time when I left a mark on the place, saw some of  the changes me & others that fought place more American-Africans in higher Executive ranks, until my voice & not until my motives were  clear & precise. 
 Will the verdict always be GUILTY or is just the color of my skin? As others approached me, I realize the bigger picture.  This workplace was hostile to anyone who did not fit into the world of elites.  I laugh because half of them were living like rubbish as they watched me.  The cars I drove each day, how the COO (Chief of Operations) who was making approximately 200,000 a yr ; guess who lived right next door? Moi~~
I pat myself on the back, I have no regrets, but before I left I had to express to them how it was ashamed that I had to be the one to walk away with high blood pressure, anxiety & depression.  If they only could invent a drug for "hatred". 
I  thank them for setting me free & turning my life around, my eyes & ears more aware, & sharing my stories of encouragement and pain.  My trust, my beliefs, my pain, has made me more spiritual.  I never saw color, until now.  I refuse to check off that box that is on every application whether I am Black or African-American.  I am neither; I do not look like the color of a black crayon & last time I traced my roots, Africa did not come into play. So I will continue to check off "Others". 
We all have biases &prejudice, but I never acted like I was better than the homeless we pass daily on the streets.  I hold my head high & will continue on my journey of _______
(you fill in the blank).

**(By no means do I encourage or discourage, influence or manipulate my readers. But I will Endorse for you to know your RIGHTS)** RIP TRAYVON...RaShawn & My brother.  I dedicate this to ALL the VICTIMS of SENSELESS BS!!

"How Far Will You Go"

Keeping it Spicy in the Bedroom..It is a must, but how far will you go?

We love to please or mate, some people yearn & have more sexual desires, some role play, but is their a limit? Once you realize you have bedroom chemistry & enjoy the sexual encounter with the traditional sex ways, then what?

Some people are into whips &chains, oral & anal sex, including a 3rd party, sex toys, watch porn, put on diapers &play "treat me like a baby" grabbing your hair & wrap it around your fingers & pull gentle (watch the weaves), choking fucking IJS (I'm just saying).
All I  know, if you got young ones, put them to sleep early, if it is weekend, get RID OF THEM QUICK...even if it is for a couple hours.  But you & your mate have to make time for intimacy. HELL NO, the baby just going have to be scared to sleep in her/his room at least 2 days a week. Check & search & show them, there  are no monsters in the closet, under the bed, give them candy, cookies, anything just to have some alone time.
When the house is totally empty and it is just you & your mate.. GET IT ON!!!! GET IT IN!!! All over the house, just sanitize the kitchen counter & table before you decide to eat again.
I still like candles lit, some sexy music {mix it up} so I can be your personal stripper, dancing  is a great foreplay, blind folded while you feed your mate delicate fruits, nice bottle of champagne (no cheap shit), get each other so hot, when you dress in one of your costumes or uniforms & give a sexual tease (show off your acrobatic moves ) if your flexible). If not, take some fitness classes {Pole Dancing is the HOTTEST new Trend} Yoga improves your stretching.
Have you ever wanted someone so bad & Chemistry is so INTENSE.....so as you walk in, you go SR88 at it, somehow your panties ended up just falling off, you ripping clothes off, kissing passionately & deeply, you don't even make it to the bed, you start biting your bottom lip, how about when you grab the sheets & your eyes roll in the back of  your head.
Sex is MANDATORY...A  MUST...it relieves stress, form of exercise, ENJOYABLE....PLEASURABLE....DESIRABLE, but is it rules to having sex &limitation?
What You do behind clothes doors shouldn't be any ones business...Not even Victoria, even though we have made her RICH, but her Secret been out. I say never discuss or have intercourse while others are present,  Sneaking off at a party or gathering is a turn-on, but if you are a screamer {YES..YES..YES}, a moaner, or hollering out names {Now the neighbors know your names} & curse words; Let's play it safe & try to resist yourselves because it can be really awkward when you guys go back to join the party and you two have a big grins on your faces & your clothes is on backwards, your hair style has changed, your getting strange looks, giggles & the couple throwing the party knows you & your partner well and slightly whisper in your ear "Ya Nasty". Try to act normal, but I say flirt at the party all night, role play at the party as if you are stranger because when you get home...IT'S ON!!!
I tend to stay out of sex talk around women because next time they see your man, he may be wondering why your girlfriends are looking at him strangely or giggling.  Sex gets better & better the older you become. Don't think your grandparents or parents don't still get it on. We do not need details, but it is SEX so Enjoy it because TRUST ME~~What you won't do, another will & I will continue to ENCOURAGE EVERYONE....I KNOW THE CHEMISTRY IS SO UNBEARABLE, BUT PLEASE PRACTICE SAFE SEX!!
You want to trust your partners, especially someone you been with & believe your in a monogamous relationship.  Just BE CAREFUL...but KEEP IT SPICY****


***[ These  are my thoughts & feelings, it is not to encourage or discourage..Try at your own risk]**

DEFINITION OF A BEST FRIEND

We all have used the terms..my BFF..my bestie..Best friend, but what makes you Best friends?
It's not too many people in our childhood that you remain friends with. I have been blessed. Some of my closes friends I still talk to since the 3rd grade & notice I said CLOSE.. We lost contact throughout the years you may lose contact, but when you reconnect...it's like you didn't miss a moment.  Of course, some things have changed since your days in HS.  But sometimes, people DO NOT change. Of course I am going to factor in things that happened throughout the years & you didn't know.  Secrets you didn't know when you were with this person everyday....After all, it's your BFF so you are together like "flies on shit".  Other life changing factors, married, kids, divorce, separation, custody battle, child support.  Life has been good, but we all have fought the DEVIL...cause he is one tricky MFer!!!!

But all this you take in, but it's your BFF.  Everything else is the same as far as "who you always been" personality wise, your actions, who you both can't  stand, and some of your friend they do not like & vise versa.  But this should not affect your relationship with your BFF. Your just as close if not more, especially after you get pass all the hurdles and catch up on all you missed. 
My philosophy has ALWAYS been...I LOVE YOU..FLAWS IN ALL.  Do we not expect the same from your BFF?

What defines a TRUE FRIEND? In my opinion, it's like any relationship; communication, always having each others back & front, trust, available when you need them, encouragement, criticism, 

non-judgmental or bias, open arms when you need a shoulder to lean or cry on, caring, respect, security, understanding, compassionate, support.. MOST OF ALL...KEEPING IT REAL!!! This person is someone who almost know you better than you know yourself!! They are your confidant and it is nothing that you can say to one another whether it's letting know if they are wrong or right.  When they hurt, you hurt, when they cry, you cry, but you make them cry from taking an issue  & turning that frown upside down, you laugh so hard till you cry.  What you discuss, no matter how intimate or the severity,; you know it's just between you & your BFF.

I had to re-evaluate some of my closes & best friends relationships lately.  I had to weed out anything or anyone negative in my life.  I never thought that some of my best & closest friends I have know for over 20 yrs.  I would have to let go to focus on me & stop caring & worrying over them.  I treat people accordingly; the way they treat me, is the way I treat them. 

I just recently took a personality test & I wasn't surprised from the results of the test.  I am a  "Nurturer"...kind, warm hearted, we like to bring out the best in others, extremely dependable, but I'm firm, and want to believe the best of people...LoL, that's me.  I always protected & cared too much, is that possible? That's just me.  I don't think you can care too much, that's just my heart.  I offer anyway possible & hold your hand through some of the hardest times.  But just like when your child grows up & becomes an adult & now have to make their own decision. You have to loosen that grip some and let them soar.  I DO NOT look for anything in return, but to be true  to me.  No one is perfect & we ALL our judgmental & have biases in our own ways. We give people many chances in life & we try not to hurt people's feelings, especially when it is your BFF, so that firm judgments against individuals are when that individual are being difficult to unseed.

I have to learn to practice what I preach and that means "LOVE from a DISTANCE".  I'm working on it & learning to let go and let others stop depending on me because when the chips are down, I have to depend on ME!

BELIEVE ****

 

**{These are my views & opinions, it is not to discourage or encourage others}**

"WTH HAPPENED"




If you know me or you may not.  I always enjoyed to write, I loved assignments in school where you have to read an article or book & narrow(summarize) it in your own words.  I can elaborate & my mind is imaginable.  So blogging is like keep a journal & if you never had a journal, it is never to late to start one.  It is healthy to write out how you feel because with me, what you are reading & what I will actually say is TOTALLY, 2 different things.  I been called mean & nice {they say a crazy combo} & some others name , but I never gave a FUCK what anyone said about me, I would respect you more if you said it in my face because I may not say things with a little finesse~ I  am BLUNT!!!  {Not the kind you smoke}what I say I just come out & say it.  Is it offensive, rude, ignorant? Yup, may be...can I find a more subtle approach? Sometimes, some people take the nice approach & we are having a conversation about a guy who acts like, a punk (for example) you keep going on & on about he does this & that & it's nothing good so far..Basically what you telling me he's a  PUSSY!!! In other words, he's a BITCH...he acts like a woman more than a man.

Women talk about the next women...when a woman gossips, we gossip!  The difference about me, I don't like that talking behind the back stuff.  I can say it directly to you or can address you, but I'm not a he/she say type of chick...I wanna hear it from the horses mouth.  If you ask me if I said it, I said it..what you going do? Fight, punch me in my mouth, curse me out?  Just a Mental note: For every action is an reaction. If I said she is a DIRT DIRT..A HOE..AN INFORMER. the BITCH IS CRAZY...that is what the FUCK I SAID!!

Now HTH (How the Hell) I get on this topic?{ I use to smoke too much weed}. ANyWho, Anybody that knows me, you no I am still in the party circuit {Promotion, signing upcoming artist to record labels, entertainer). Not bad for an old head, but I can still hang. I love MUSIC~it makes the WORLD go AROUND~ I've seen music change from real love songs up to now..down right straight to the point! Some is degrading, but you see what I am doing right now? Blogging; it is sort of a different tune, but it can be entertaining, beautiful, informative, just down right wrong in some opinions, but also be Oooh so right!
It's like a Babyface, Luther, Teddy, Gerard, Commodores throwbacks.  It becomes part of you, it makes you feel good, it's ecstasy.  I want these Selectors ( DJs) to be aware of what they play & keep your audience in mind. Grown & Sexy, go back to basics, Rewind, Pull Up, give these newcomers a taste of what real music is, how the dance steps came to play apart & if you can't handle the heat get off the dance floor~like Ludcris said "Move B!TCH Get Out the Way". It's nothing wrong if you paid your money to get in & stand to watch the atmosphere, BUT it is more FUN...when you just don't give a damn & join in the fun. I know if I pay to get in a party (rare) I'm going to enjoy myself & yes...you can watch me like you watching "So You Think You Can Dance". 
 WTH~you  Love, Live, & Learn...I still enjoy going out , but I'm not there to watch nobody, to get with nobody or challenge you young girls that roll & display moves that should ONLY be made for the bedroom, but that's the difference of not ONLY generation, but MAINLY the RESPECT & VALUES I have within. DO NOT get it TWISTED.. I may be in my 40's, but like I tell people, I can still DROP it down LOW, but I just Bring it back up SLOW!!  IDC  ( I don't care) what you have on.... This is not a fashion show for me or how much you spent on your outfit & BTW (by the way) Thanks for supporting my cousin the designer who makes most of your clothes you pay for and it will be an Original, but I know his craft when I see it. LOL..   But let's not 4get what we come there for, not for the drama, who is with who, who's cheating.. I'm there just to listen, support & catch the Vybz. So enjoy the music, release some stress, dance & burn some calories.  By the time you look up
 

 

 
It's a Brand New Day!!

"Just STOP "

Why is it so hard to do things for someone who is ALWAYS there for you, but we run to someone else's aid that is not supportive or true to you.  We take MANY things for GRANTED...it is time to STOP & smell not just the roses, but REALITY.  I have learned to STOP & fall back to take a  good look at what is important & weed out all the negative BS in my life.  I love helping people, but I realize I was helping the wrong type of person.  You have to ask yourself  do you know the difference in what a person needs or wants? Some just want because they feel like the way I think, "I want that" because I just do.  I get what I want, I always have. Reality is...do you need it, is it something you have to have or do you just want it your way? Do you know the meaning of need & want?  I ask myself, do I want someone that needs me or someone who wants me or both? Which one doesn't take you for granted, need or want? Is a need a necessity & Is a want a desire?

I STOPPED caring so much for what a person wants & concentrated more on what I need.  I have to still catch myself from jumping up to be there for others because when I looked up, only GOD was the last man standing right by my side (he never left) & I tell people constantly that no one owes you anything, except yourself.  What you do for someone, you do because YOU wanted to, not because you looking for anything in return~ but a Thank you is simple to say & telling  someone how much you mean or what you did for them how much it meant.  It can be something so minor as asking someone, "would you like a piece of gum".  That person mouth was probably so dry & you come and offer something to get there juices back flowing.

I love to hear a compliments that is meaningful.  I've been told by strangers I may have just met & from one single conversation they tell me they love my spirit, my warmth, & drive. I chose to STOP certain behaviors, but I will not STOP who I am on the account of someone else's needs. I continue to ask GOD for forgiveness, guidance & strength.  I try to return back the same kind of feeling someone meaningful has shown me.  People have different views & thoughts, but no one is to judge. But we do! Can we STOP? We try or want to, but we need to STOP & reflect on the most precious moments & live for now because sometimes it's too late to turn around.

It is many things I want; World Peace, a peaceful life, I want to try to help every child that is gone through suffrage, I want my family here with me forever, I don't want anyone to get old or die,  I do not want to argue or fight, I want everyone to be happy & live carefree, I want the killing & violence crimes to "JUST STOP".  I NEED to be realistic, we want life to be the way we want it, but it is so many things within ourselves that we as an individual need to re-evaluate and need to "JUST STOP".

 

"I'm Trying To Tell You, Today Is not the Day"

We ALL have those days where you just not in the mood.  Your morning starts off bad,  your car been acting up lately, you get to work & everything and everybody seems like they getting on your nerves, just by the sound of their voice makes you sick. You gotta figure out what's for dinner tonight, your kids got on your nerves so much lately, you don't even want to feed them or shove food down their throats because if they say one thing about "I don't want to eat that" if I have to say one more time; "You better eat those vegetables girl, I'm not playing with you.  We know when it's close to getting off  work & you dare your boss to come tell you something & you have 20 minutes left because "TODAY IS NOT THE DAY."
Men say that they can not understand a woman because we off & on like a light switch.  Basically, damn if I do, damn if I don't.  We are no more difficult than men, we just want a straight answer from you.  That's all and yes, when you answer the first question it may lead into another & another question.  I know by now every man, child, your cat, dog gerbil, horses and cow will feel the raft of<<TODAY IS NOT THE DAY>>.  All them know to get out of a woman's way when she is expecting (not a baby)..her monthly unwelcome guest, but you are happy too see it but once you do, you want it to go away.  But this is not the point,  it's the week before & those first couple days....I'm Trying to Tell you~~ PMS!!!! Men DO NOT take this for a joke, we are not making up a reason or excuse of why we acting like a BITCH!!! It is called PMS for a reason (bet you didn't even notice the "S' is in bold) the Symptoms are REAL...IDK (I don't know) what comes over us or what our hormones go through, but this is not the time to bother us because every little thing irritates the hell out of us! We do not like you, the kids, our beautiful home, we don't like anything. Please just be quiet and let us go off because if it sound like you whispered or mumbled a word. You going get the Mike Tyson vs. Holyfield (you will be missing a piece of your ear)! To our children, we didn't mean to almost twist your lips off, but you sounded like you said something smart when I asked you to do something (just put some ice on your lip the swelling will go down).

I'm trying to tell you....the next thing is SEXUAL FRUSTRATION!!! See how a man & women act after not getting any.  A  man will break down quickly and will do everything you ask because it is a possible chance 2nit is the night!! Dam, is that why I walked in the house & he had the vacuum in his hand? I thought he was fixing it again but he ACTUALLY vacuum the whole house. I had a rough day so last night I used the "I got a headache"....I'm going get everything done & take a shower and act like I fell asleep early! Your man is not going to keep going for that.  "I'm Trying to Tell You" (YOU GOING TO LEARN TODAY) GIVE YOUR MAN THE "MEOW" ANY TIME, ANY WHERE, WHENEVER.,SKIP THE SEXY LINGERIE (he gonna say, yeah I see it baby, Take it off) SO DO BOTH OF YOU  A FAVOR & SAVE SOME TIME & DROP THOSE DRAWS, PANTIES, THONGS (sometime thongs are extra exciting to leave on & have sex) but, basically like the late Great Marvin Gaye "LETS GET IT ON"!!

Now a woman who hasn't had sex for awhile; depends on the person &what you consider awhile because if you are a very sexual person & love having sex. A week is too long, Shit a couple days may be too long so let's imagine a month.... Never mind (a month is too long, someone may die).  Let's just say, your WAY OVERDUE~MEN.. If she initiates the sex...you better be ready she will Holler & Swallow! But that one woman that doesn't really have a steady man & mostly is career driven. If she starts snapping at work, on her friends, and anyone in her way. DO NOT mistaken it for PMS!!! She is frustrated sexually..she has tried everything to avoid the feeling, but once the cooch cooch starts jumping,; ANYTHING IS BOUND TO HAPPEN...Yup, she will turn to the Exorcist on you and it will look like her head will do a 360 & steam coming from the top of her head & she will have you yanked up by the collard before you knows it.  All because you told her it is a piece of paper on the floor. 

OKAY, I may be exaggerating, a little. What ever the case may be. I warned you.  Like a car, get a tune-up, your oil needs changing, choose wisely, plan a head, be romantic (GREAT FOREPLAY),  let your hair down or your weave, if you bald let your woman give it a new glow, if your bald woman (try a wig~different characters is HOTT), be spontaneous, but  MOST OF ALL...know your partners name first and PROTECTION!! If you are married, just inspected his private parts & sterilize his equipment never can be to trusting & I'm sure he will enjoy the strokes...BUT if it been awhile...HURRY Up~~Put that condom on & RIp those clothes off & become ANIMALISTIC~You are a TIGER!!

{My Thoughts, My Feelings and in no way is this blog to persuade or encourage nor discourage you}