DEFINITION OF A BEST FRIEND

We all have used the terms..my BFF..my bestie..Best friend, but what makes you Best friends?
It's not too many people in our childhood that you remain friends with. I have been blessed. Some of my closes friends I still talk to since the 3rd grade & notice I said CLOSE.. We lost contact throughout the years you may lose contact, but when you reconnect...it's like you didn't miss a moment.  Of course, some things have changed since your days in HS.  But sometimes, people DO NOT change. Of course I am going to factor in things that happened throughout the years & you didn't know.  Secrets you didn't know when you were with this person everyday....After all, it's your BFF so you are together like "flies on shit".  Other life changing factors, married, kids, divorce, separation, custody battle, child support.  Life has been good, but we all have fought the DEVIL...cause he is one tricky MFer!!!!

But all this you take in, but it's your BFF.  Everything else is the same as far as "who you always been" personality wise, your actions, who you both can't  stand, and some of your friend they do not like & vise versa.  But this should not affect your relationship with your BFF. Your just as close if not more, especially after you get pass all the hurdles and catch up on all you missed. 
My philosophy has ALWAYS been...I LOVE YOU..FLAWS IN ALL.  Do we not expect the same from your BFF?

What defines a TRUE FRIEND? In my opinion, it's like any relationship; communication, always having each others back & front, trust, available when you need them, encouragement, criticism, 

non-judgmental or bias, open arms when you need a shoulder to lean or cry on, caring, respect, security, understanding, compassionate, support.. MOST OF ALL...KEEPING IT REAL!!! This person is someone who almost know you better than you know yourself!! They are your confidant and it is nothing that you can say to one another whether it's letting know if they are wrong or right.  When they hurt, you hurt, when they cry, you cry, but you make them cry from taking an issue  & turning that frown upside down, you laugh so hard till you cry.  What you discuss, no matter how intimate or the severity,; you know it's just between you & your BFF.

I had to re-evaluate some of my closes & best friends relationships lately.  I had to weed out anything or anyone negative in my life.  I never thought that some of my best & closest friends I have know for over 20 yrs.  I would have to let go to focus on me & stop caring & worrying over them.  I treat people accordingly; the way they treat me, is the way I treat them. 

I just recently took a personality test & I wasn't surprised from the results of the test.  I am a  "Nurturer"...kind, warm hearted, we like to bring out the best in others, extremely dependable, but I'm firm, and want to believe the best of people...LoL, that's me.  I always protected & cared too much, is that possible? That's just me.  I don't think you can care too much, that's just my heart.  I offer anyway possible & hold your hand through some of the hardest times.  But just like when your child grows up & becomes an adult & now have to make their own decision. You have to loosen that grip some and let them soar.  I DO NOT look for anything in return, but to be true  to me.  No one is perfect & we ALL our judgmental & have biases in our own ways. We give people many chances in life & we try not to hurt people's feelings, especially when it is your BFF, so that firm judgments against individuals are when that individual are being difficult to unseed.

I have to learn to practice what I preach and that means "LOVE from a DISTANCE".  I'm working on it & learning to let go and let others stop depending on me because when the chips are down, I have to depend on ME!

BELIEVE ****

 

**{These are my views & opinions, it is not to discourage or encourage others}**