"Plan to Evacuate"

Have you ever just wanted to run far away & just start over again...What would you take...what will you leave behind & If you have children, would you take them?

Have you ever felt trapped and can not see away out? What would you do in life differently & why?  I believe everything is done at a specific time with some planning.  I do not like to make plans because plans are made to be broken (just like a promise).  I like to just go with the flow.  I have consider many, TOO MANY times of leaving & starting over again, a million miles away, take on a new identity, somewhere so distant that no one could not find me.  A place of all the beauties in life that I adore, tranquility and find my new destiny.  One day, I keep telling myself...one day.  But because of the closeness & love for my family & mainly my parents is why I still remain. 

I have felt trapped, I have been trapped, but sometimes we trap ourselves and are scared to face life events.  What is going to happen next, how am I going make it, etc...questions you keep asking yourself.  These I look at as excuses that are really are fears that we do not want to face.  IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO START OVER.  I have had a beautiful life.  I am going to write my next blog based on YOUR LIFE.  Just to prepare you, ask yourself if you were to leave this Earth today is there any regrets or what would you do differently?  I will let you think on that one for awhile.

Where was I, Oooo, I remember...What is holding you back from leaving or starting over., why do we stay in situations that are necessarily not healthy for us? Why does a person stay in an abusive relationships? Why are we afraid to move on? Do you realize staying in a bad or any situation is by choice? We rule our own decisions, are own lives and for every response there is a cause and effect , reasoning, thought process, but do we always make the right decisions? HELL NO!! I dare someone to say they have made the right decisions in every aspect of their lives.  You may believe you have or did at that particular moment in time, but when you think back, is there not a  little piece of you saying,  I should've, could've did it this way or do you have more of a Ooh well & don't dwell over it, basically it is what it is.
Do you know your Type, I am not talking about your blood type.  Are you a Type A or Type B? I am going to leave a link.  This link is a personality test and you will know what Type of person you are. One Type is more competitive, harder on themselves, aggressive, challenging and the other is; more laid back and does not worry over certain things.  Why & what does this have to do with this blog? This personality test will answer some of the questions you may have not known about yourself, but as soon as you complete the test  and the end results, you will say...Wow, that is me! This determines why we don't take chances or do take chances. You can be both Types in some ways, after  you learn more will it help you out if you are in a situation and begin to execute a plan, will you evacuate?

I do believe their is another life awaiting for me.  It is not running away, I am walking away.  You are suppose to have a "Plan to Evacuate" in your household, in case of emergency.  Plans do not always go the way we planned it, neither does life.  No one owes you anything, except yourself.  I can not recall the last time I had a dream, because I live it.  EXPECT THE UNEPECTED~LEARN SOME THING NEW EACH DAY~READ~COMPHREND & STAND FOR WHAT YOU FEEL STRONGLY OPINIONED ABOUT & YOU WILL "EVACATE YOUR PLAN".

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"WORLD OF TECHNO"

I never thought we would see the days of Technology Takeover...Slowly, we have watch the times change.  Computers & CyberWorld  has taken over.

 I remember watching the "Jetsons" and in those days, we did not have a computer.  So the Jetsons were soooo  far out & futuristic that I remember saying, "I couldn't wait to see those days, I won't have to do anything because a robot does it all."

But on the flip side....we also watched the "Flintstones".  Caveman days and I couldn't imagine or wondered how those days exist.  I just laughed and would say I know I  would not live in that way.  I  just figured it was a cartoon and was funny.  Now in some sense, my generations and many generations before & after  us came from the "Flintstones" Era.  The children today laugh at any object we had compared to what they have today; MP3 players, I-pads, I-phones, I-pods, laptops, desktops, DVR... I will not continue because It is making my head spin and trying to keep up is  almost impossible.

Our children, young adults, middle aged  & even some of the late adulthood, walk around staring at some type of techno devices.  We need to monitor our children cell phones because they have now been exposed to Cyberspace and SEX TEX {taken very provocative pictures & sending it through text}.  We have exposed ourselves and enter a very strange world.  A World that cam upon us & natural selection automatically took place.  How is it that we can afford all these electronic devices & crying about , how are we going pay a bill?  Did we have a chose or were we forced? How did these devices become part of our daily lives? AND worst of all, part of our household budget? Tell the truth...if you do not have your cellphone, do you not go CRAZY looking for it or feel lost without?

How & who was responsible for all theses changes? Barack Obama {thought  I throw him in since we blame him for so many things), the government, scientist? I recall seeing or hearing the announcement of having to go get a special box in order for your television to work.  Huh? All those years , I held on to antennas (rabbit ears) moving them around , back & forth until the TV was clear enough to see.  My sister & I was the remote control.  Now, I have a one year old Great niece, that has taught me features on my cellphone that I had NO  CLUE it could do!

Must I go there... Yes, cause if you haven't noticed, it is not much I  WON"T say.  The social sites... We have become CONDITIONED!! We fell for all of this.  Social sites have ruined relationships, marriages, friendships and exposed many.  The attention seekers, the social addict, the tell all my business, & the pretender.  Social networks & social games where you are just an avatar have lead to intimacy, dating, cheating , losing your job& make you live in a make believe world.   That becomes our daily lives.  The further we go in the future the more frighten it becomes.  I am slowly pulling myself away from certain social sites.  It is all about business with me at this point & inspirational quotes when I do post.  I always been a VERY private person & it is some things we will never reveal; just take it to your grave.  Some of the stuff I see, is hilarious, entertaining, not much surprises or shock me anymore, but just telling your personal life & I am not judging NO WAY NO HOW because I have made great acquaintances with many people through social networks.  But I still have morals and disbelief, I can not reveal but so much to Cyber World.  I reveal how I feel and I occupy my time so I do not visit the forbidden; chat rooms, dating sites, following others (instagrams or twitter) & like I have said before.  The well renounce FACEBOOK....you ONLY see faces, but do not now the story in everyone you have befriend because everyone there is always a story, but in order to know the story, YOU MUST READ THE BOOK!

***(THIS IS NOT TO ENCOURAGE OR DISCOURAGE YOUR BELIEFS.  THESE ARE THOUGHTS & FEELINGS BASED ON REALITY..MINES OR OTHERS)***

IT'S A STORY TO BE TOLD...STAY TUNED

DOCUMENTARY COMING SOON...........

THE GREATEST DECEPTION

When you see the word "DECEPTION" what comes to mind?

Is it Infidelity, breaking a persons' trust, taken for granted, unappreciated, unworthy...I can continue to go on & on.  The worst feeling in the WORLD to me is taken my kindness for weakness, thinking I am Ray Charles (no disrespect), uneducated and mistaken for a fool.  I am not your average chick; some people like trash, they start believing & losing faith in themselves because of someone else's under achievements. I am a  little too deep for the AVeRaGe, something yOU maY Not ever been introduced to. 

I can be sassy, wild, laid back, ratchet, classy, not to flashy, smooth, intriguing, a mystery, impressive, expressive, compromise, loyal, responsible, trust-worthy, complicated, but NOT DUPLICATE.  I have a heart of GLITZ & GLAMOUR, I will give a person my last dollar (literally) and not think anything of it.  BUT PLEASE do not get it FUCKED UP, DO NOT TAKE FOR A FOOL OR THINK YOU ROYALTY because that is one of my mistakes.  Trying to make everyone feel comfortable and happy.  But it is not my job or my duty and once I feel DECEPTION...watch out for this SCORPIONS FATAL STING!!! I do not like to repeat myself and I give you plenty warning.  Now, that I am State Property.. Please believe me!! I'm a walking time bomb. Do not light or strike a nerve or match because I am a BOMB & when you push someone that has done so much for you.  That BOMB will eventually blow & the WORLD will know.  You will feel the raft, I do not take trash.  Trash stinks and where does it go? Out for the garbage man because I refuse to continue to smell your scent of DECEPTION.

NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT YOU LESS THAN YOU ARE~THEY ARE JUST SHOWING A REFLECTION OF WHO THEY REALLY ARE!!!!

"GUILTY OR NOT GUILT'

The biggest case in history since O.J. <<TRAYVON MARTIN>> what really happened, was it racial or was it justified? Trayvon is not here to tell his story because it is always three sides to a story.  Yours, mines & the truth.  Many opinions & other issues occurring around this case. Black on black crime & Racism vs. Justice.

It is a lot to be said and being a victim of a discrimination & harassment because of the color of my skin has changed my life.  Losing a brother and a cousin from gun violence, has also placed a big impact on my life.  People speculate, comment & jump to conclusions.  I tell them, if you have not been a victim and hear stories, DO NOT say you understand.  In my line of work & studies now as a Human Service Professional; we learned to say "I can relate", but as I counsel, I  am there to listen to my clients stories, I am not suppose to not be bias or judge, but I am there to LISTEN.
Everything that has happened in my life, took a toll on me mentally and physically.  It is a reoccurring situation.  As the state calls it, "I had a traumatic experience".  An experience I may NEVER get over! But I stood up for not just for myself, but for people who have been taking the abuse & ones that will come after me. 
Do I consider myself an Activist? Yes, I do.  My previous lawyer that helped me get my case in State & Federal courts; we partied ways, but before I left, he also complimented me by telling  me that I am a Great person, strong-minded, & Activist.  This is a man who was part of one the Greatest law firm; Johnny Cochran (may he continue to RIP).
I stood up because my rights were violated, I help others who did not know their rights & were violated, I helped the ones who were being abused become aware & stronger, I stood up because it was the right thing to do.  It affected my personal life as a mother & wife.  I became so determines, that I basically abandoned my duties as an Food Director and overnight became an Attorney. 
 I did the research, I wrote letters, I met with high profile officials, I took my fight all the way to Washington, D.C. to the Civil rights Organization.  People at my workplace told me I was wasting my time and wouldn't get anywhere.
I received a Right to Sue notice from the Civil rights Organization and Department of Labor in my state and they were found guilty for discrimination &  hostile work environment.  Then my co-workers asked how did I do it, no one ever got that far.  They weren't worth a response.
Who was found "GUILTY", they tried to make every attempt to break my faith so I would just walk away, questioned other employees about my life, make it look like they were the victims, but I refused to leave until I decided.  I decided it was time when I left a mark on the place, saw some of  the changes me & others that fought place more American-Africans in higher Executive ranks, until my voice & not until my motives were  clear & precise. 
 Will the verdict always be GUILTY or is just the color of my skin? As others approached me, I realize the bigger picture.  This workplace was hostile to anyone who did not fit into the world of elites.  I laugh because half of them were living like rubbish as they watched me.  The cars I drove each day, how the COO (Chief of Operations) who was making approximately 200,000 a yr ; guess who lived right next door? Moi~~
I pat myself on the back, I have no regrets, but before I left I had to express to them how it was ashamed that I had to be the one to walk away with high blood pressure, anxiety & depression.  If they only could invent a drug for "hatred". 
I  thank them for setting me free & turning my life around, my eyes & ears more aware, & sharing my stories of encouragement and pain.  My trust, my beliefs, my pain, has made me more spiritual.  I never saw color, until now.  I refuse to check off that box that is on every application whether I am Black or African-American.  I am neither; I do not look like the color of a black crayon & last time I traced my roots, Africa did not come into play. So I will continue to check off "Others". 
We all have biases &prejudice, but I never acted like I was better than the homeless we pass daily on the streets.  I hold my head high & will continue on my journey of _______
(you fill in the blank).

**(By no means do I encourage or discourage, influence or manipulate my readers. But I will Endorse for you to know your RIGHTS)** RIP TRAYVON...RaShawn & My brother.  I dedicate this to ALL the VICTIMS of SENSELESS BS!!

"How Far Will You Go"

Keeping it Spicy in the Bedroom..It is a must, but how far will you go?

We love to please or mate, some people yearn & have more sexual desires, some role play, but is their a limit? Once you realize you have bedroom chemistry & enjoy the sexual encounter with the traditional sex ways, then what?

Some people are into whips &chains, oral & anal sex, including a 3rd party, sex toys, watch porn, put on diapers &play "treat me like a baby" grabbing your hair & wrap it around your fingers & pull gentle (watch the weaves), choking fucking IJS (I'm just saying).
All I  know, if you got young ones, put them to sleep early, if it is weekend, get RID OF THEM QUICK...even if it is for a couple hours.  But you & your mate have to make time for intimacy. HELL NO, the baby just going have to be scared to sleep in her/his room at least 2 days a week. Check & search & show them, there  are no monsters in the closet, under the bed, give them candy, cookies, anything just to have some alone time.
When the house is totally empty and it is just you & your mate.. GET IT ON!!!! GET IT IN!!! All over the house, just sanitize the kitchen counter & table before you decide to eat again.
I still like candles lit, some sexy music {mix it up} so I can be your personal stripper, dancing  is a great foreplay, blind folded while you feed your mate delicate fruits, nice bottle of champagne (no cheap shit), get each other so hot, when you dress in one of your costumes or uniforms & give a sexual tease (show off your acrobatic moves ) if your flexible). If not, take some fitness classes {Pole Dancing is the HOTTEST new Trend} Yoga improves your stretching.
Have you ever wanted someone so bad & Chemistry is so INTENSE.....so as you walk in, you go SR88 at it, somehow your panties ended up just falling off, you ripping clothes off, kissing passionately & deeply, you don't even make it to the bed, you start biting your bottom lip, how about when you grab the sheets & your eyes roll in the back of  your head.
Sex is MANDATORY...A  MUST...it relieves stress, form of exercise, ENJOYABLE....PLEASURABLE....DESIRABLE, but is it rules to having sex &limitation?
What You do behind clothes doors shouldn't be any ones business...Not even Victoria, even though we have made her RICH, but her Secret been out. I say never discuss or have intercourse while others are present,  Sneaking off at a party or gathering is a turn-on, but if you are a screamer {YES..YES..YES}, a moaner, or hollering out names {Now the neighbors know your names} & curse words; Let's play it safe & try to resist yourselves because it can be really awkward when you guys go back to join the party and you two have a big grins on your faces & your clothes is on backwards, your hair style has changed, your getting strange looks, giggles & the couple throwing the party knows you & your partner well and slightly whisper in your ear "Ya Nasty". Try to act normal, but I say flirt at the party all night, role play at the party as if you are stranger because when you get home...IT'S ON!!!
I tend to stay out of sex talk around women because next time they see your man, he may be wondering why your girlfriends are looking at him strangely or giggling.  Sex gets better & better the older you become. Don't think your grandparents or parents don't still get it on. We do not need details, but it is SEX so Enjoy it because TRUST ME~~What you won't do, another will & I will continue to ENCOURAGE EVERYONE....I KNOW THE CHEMISTRY IS SO UNBEARABLE, BUT PLEASE PRACTICE SAFE SEX!!
You want to trust your partners, especially someone you been with & believe your in a monogamous relationship.  Just BE CAREFUL...but KEEP IT SPICY****


***[ These  are my thoughts & feelings, it is not to encourage or discourage..Try at your own risk]**

DEFINITION OF A BEST FRIEND

We all have used the terms..my BFF..my bestie..Best friend, but what makes you Best friends?
It's not too many people in our childhood that you remain friends with. I have been blessed. Some of my closes friends I still talk to since the 3rd grade & notice I said CLOSE.. We lost contact throughout the years you may lose contact, but when you reconnect...it's like you didn't miss a moment.  Of course, some things have changed since your days in HS.  But sometimes, people DO NOT change. Of course I am going to factor in things that happened throughout the years & you didn't know.  Secrets you didn't know when you were with this person everyday....After all, it's your BFF so you are together like "flies on shit".  Other life changing factors, married, kids, divorce, separation, custody battle, child support.  Life has been good, but we all have fought the DEVIL...cause he is one tricky MFer!!!!

But all this you take in, but it's your BFF.  Everything else is the same as far as "who you always been" personality wise, your actions, who you both can't  stand, and some of your friend they do not like & vise versa.  But this should not affect your relationship with your BFF. Your just as close if not more, especially after you get pass all the hurdles and catch up on all you missed. 
My philosophy has ALWAYS been...I LOVE YOU..FLAWS IN ALL.  Do we not expect the same from your BFF?

What defines a TRUE FRIEND? In my opinion, it's like any relationship; communication, always having each others back & front, trust, available when you need them, encouragement, criticism, 

non-judgmental or bias, open arms when you need a shoulder to lean or cry on, caring, respect, security, understanding, compassionate, support.. MOST OF ALL...KEEPING IT REAL!!! This person is someone who almost know you better than you know yourself!! They are your confidant and it is nothing that you can say to one another whether it's letting know if they are wrong or right.  When they hurt, you hurt, when they cry, you cry, but you make them cry from taking an issue  & turning that frown upside down, you laugh so hard till you cry.  What you discuss, no matter how intimate or the severity,; you know it's just between you & your BFF.

I had to re-evaluate some of my closes & best friends relationships lately.  I had to weed out anything or anyone negative in my life.  I never thought that some of my best & closest friends I have know for over 20 yrs.  I would have to let go to focus on me & stop caring & worrying over them.  I treat people accordingly; the way they treat me, is the way I treat them. 

I just recently took a personality test & I wasn't surprised from the results of the test.  I am a  "Nurturer"...kind, warm hearted, we like to bring out the best in others, extremely dependable, but I'm firm, and want to believe the best of people...LoL, that's me.  I always protected & cared too much, is that possible? That's just me.  I don't think you can care too much, that's just my heart.  I offer anyway possible & hold your hand through some of the hardest times.  But just like when your child grows up & becomes an adult & now have to make their own decision. You have to loosen that grip some and let them soar.  I DO NOT look for anything in return, but to be true  to me.  No one is perfect & we ALL our judgmental & have biases in our own ways. We give people many chances in life & we try not to hurt people's feelings, especially when it is your BFF, so that firm judgments against individuals are when that individual are being difficult to unseed.

I have to learn to practice what I preach and that means "LOVE from a DISTANCE".  I'm working on it & learning to let go and let others stop depending on me because when the chips are down, I have to depend on ME!

BELIEVE ****

 

**{These are my views & opinions, it is not to discourage or encourage others}**

"WTH HAPPENED"




If you know me or you may not.  I always enjoyed to write, I loved assignments in school where you have to read an article or book & narrow(summarize) it in your own words.  I can elaborate & my mind is imaginable.  So blogging is like keep a journal & if you never had a journal, it is never to late to start one.  It is healthy to write out how you feel because with me, what you are reading & what I will actually say is TOTALLY, 2 different things.  I been called mean & nice {they say a crazy combo} & some others name , but I never gave a FUCK what anyone said about me, I would respect you more if you said it in my face because I may not say things with a little finesse~ I  am BLUNT!!!  {Not the kind you smoke}what I say I just come out & say it.  Is it offensive, rude, ignorant? Yup, may be...can I find a more subtle approach? Sometimes, some people take the nice approach & we are having a conversation about a guy who acts like, a punk (for example) you keep going on & on about he does this & that & it's nothing good so far..Basically what you telling me he's a  PUSSY!!! In other words, he's a BITCH...he acts like a woman more than a man.

Women talk about the next women...when a woman gossips, we gossip!  The difference about me, I don't like that talking behind the back stuff.  I can say it directly to you or can address you, but I'm not a he/she say type of chick...I wanna hear it from the horses mouth.  If you ask me if I said it, I said it..what you going do? Fight, punch me in my mouth, curse me out?  Just a Mental note: For every action is an reaction. If I said she is a DIRT DIRT..A HOE..AN INFORMER. the BITCH IS CRAZY...that is what the FUCK I SAID!!

Now HTH (How the Hell) I get on this topic?{ I use to smoke too much weed}. ANyWho, Anybody that knows me, you no I am still in the party circuit {Promotion, signing upcoming artist to record labels, entertainer). Not bad for an old head, but I can still hang. I love MUSIC~it makes the WORLD go AROUND~ I've seen music change from real love songs up to now..down right straight to the point! Some is degrading, but you see what I am doing right now? Blogging; it is sort of a different tune, but it can be entertaining, beautiful, informative, just down right wrong in some opinions, but also be Oooh so right!
It's like a Babyface, Luther, Teddy, Gerard, Commodores throwbacks.  It becomes part of you, it makes you feel good, it's ecstasy.  I want these Selectors ( DJs) to be aware of what they play & keep your audience in mind. Grown & Sexy, go back to basics, Rewind, Pull Up, give these newcomers a taste of what real music is, how the dance steps came to play apart & if you can't handle the heat get off the dance floor~like Ludcris said "Move B!TCH Get Out the Way". It's nothing wrong if you paid your money to get in & stand to watch the atmosphere, BUT it is more FUN...when you just don't give a damn & join in the fun. I know if I pay to get in a party (rare) I'm going to enjoy myself & yes...you can watch me like you watching "So You Think You Can Dance". 
 WTH~you  Love, Live, & Learn...I still enjoy going out , but I'm not there to watch nobody, to get with nobody or challenge you young girls that roll & display moves that should ONLY be made for the bedroom, but that's the difference of not ONLY generation, but MAINLY the RESPECT & VALUES I have within. DO NOT get it TWISTED.. I may be in my 40's, but like I tell people, I can still DROP it down LOW, but I just Bring it back up SLOW!!  IDC  ( I don't care) what you have on.... This is not a fashion show for me or how much you spent on your outfit & BTW (by the way) Thanks for supporting my cousin the designer who makes most of your clothes you pay for and it will be an Original, but I know his craft when I see it. LOL..   But let's not 4get what we come there for, not for the drama, who is with who, who's cheating.. I'm there just to listen, support & catch the Vybz. So enjoy the music, release some stress, dance & burn some calories.  By the time you look up
 

 

 
It's a Brand New Day!!

"Just STOP "

Why is it so hard to do things for someone who is ALWAYS there for you, but we run to someone else's aid that is not supportive or true to you.  We take MANY things for GRANTED...it is time to STOP & smell not just the roses, but REALITY.  I have learned to STOP & fall back to take a  good look at what is important & weed out all the negative BS in my life.  I love helping people, but I realize I was helping the wrong type of person.  You have to ask yourself  do you know the difference in what a person needs or wants? Some just want because they feel like the way I think, "I want that" because I just do.  I get what I want, I always have. Reality is...do you need it, is it something you have to have or do you just want it your way? Do you know the meaning of need & want?  I ask myself, do I want someone that needs me or someone who wants me or both? Which one doesn't take you for granted, need or want? Is a need a necessity & Is a want a desire?

I STOPPED caring so much for what a person wants & concentrated more on what I need.  I have to still catch myself from jumping up to be there for others because when I looked up, only GOD was the last man standing right by my side (he never left) & I tell people constantly that no one owes you anything, except yourself.  What you do for someone, you do because YOU wanted to, not because you looking for anything in return~ but a Thank you is simple to say & telling  someone how much you mean or what you did for them how much it meant.  It can be something so minor as asking someone, "would you like a piece of gum".  That person mouth was probably so dry & you come and offer something to get there juices back flowing.

I love to hear a compliments that is meaningful.  I've been told by strangers I may have just met & from one single conversation they tell me they love my spirit, my warmth, & drive. I chose to STOP certain behaviors, but I will not STOP who I am on the account of someone else's needs. I continue to ask GOD for forgiveness, guidance & strength.  I try to return back the same kind of feeling someone meaningful has shown me.  People have different views & thoughts, but no one is to judge. But we do! Can we STOP? We try or want to, but we need to STOP & reflect on the most precious moments & live for now because sometimes it's too late to turn around.

It is many things I want; World Peace, a peaceful life, I want to try to help every child that is gone through suffrage, I want my family here with me forever, I don't want anyone to get old or die,  I do not want to argue or fight, I want everyone to be happy & live carefree, I want the killing & violence crimes to "JUST STOP".  I NEED to be realistic, we want life to be the way we want it, but it is so many things within ourselves that we as an individual need to re-evaluate and need to "JUST STOP".

 

"I'm Trying To Tell You, Today Is not the Day"

We ALL have those days where you just not in the mood.  Your morning starts off bad,  your car been acting up lately, you get to work & everything and everybody seems like they getting on your nerves, just by the sound of their voice makes you sick. You gotta figure out what's for dinner tonight, your kids got on your nerves so much lately, you don't even want to feed them or shove food down their throats because if they say one thing about "I don't want to eat that" if I have to say one more time; "You better eat those vegetables girl, I'm not playing with you.  We know when it's close to getting off  work & you dare your boss to come tell you something & you have 20 minutes left because "TODAY IS NOT THE DAY."
Men say that they can not understand a woman because we off & on like a light switch.  Basically, damn if I do, damn if I don't.  We are no more difficult than men, we just want a straight answer from you.  That's all and yes, when you answer the first question it may lead into another & another question.  I know by now every man, child, your cat, dog gerbil, horses and cow will feel the raft of<<TODAY IS NOT THE DAY>>.  All them know to get out of a woman's way when she is expecting (not a baby)..her monthly unwelcome guest, but you are happy too see it but once you do, you want it to go away.  But this is not the point,  it's the week before & those first couple days....I'm Trying to Tell you~~ PMS!!!! Men DO NOT take this for a joke, we are not making up a reason or excuse of why we acting like a BITCH!!! It is called PMS for a reason (bet you didn't even notice the "S' is in bold) the Symptoms are REAL...IDK (I don't know) what comes over us or what our hormones go through, but this is not the time to bother us because every little thing irritates the hell out of us! We do not like you, the kids, our beautiful home, we don't like anything. Please just be quiet and let us go off because if it sound like you whispered or mumbled a word. You going get the Mike Tyson vs. Holyfield (you will be missing a piece of your ear)! To our children, we didn't mean to almost twist your lips off, but you sounded like you said something smart when I asked you to do something (just put some ice on your lip the swelling will go down).

I'm trying to tell you....the next thing is SEXUAL FRUSTRATION!!! See how a man & women act after not getting any.  A  man will break down quickly and will do everything you ask because it is a possible chance 2nit is the night!! Dam, is that why I walked in the house & he had the vacuum in his hand? I thought he was fixing it again but he ACTUALLY vacuum the whole house. I had a rough day so last night I used the "I got a headache"....I'm going get everything done & take a shower and act like I fell asleep early! Your man is not going to keep going for that.  "I'm Trying to Tell You" (YOU GOING TO LEARN TODAY) GIVE YOUR MAN THE "MEOW" ANY TIME, ANY WHERE, WHENEVER.,SKIP THE SEXY LINGERIE (he gonna say, yeah I see it baby, Take it off) SO DO BOTH OF YOU  A FAVOR & SAVE SOME TIME & DROP THOSE DRAWS, PANTIES, THONGS (sometime thongs are extra exciting to leave on & have sex) but, basically like the late Great Marvin Gaye "LETS GET IT ON"!!

Now a woman who hasn't had sex for awhile; depends on the person &what you consider awhile because if you are a very sexual person & love having sex. A week is too long, Shit a couple days may be too long so let's imagine a month.... Never mind (a month is too long, someone may die).  Let's just say, your WAY OVERDUE~MEN.. If she initiates the sex...you better be ready she will Holler & Swallow! But that one woman that doesn't really have a steady man & mostly is career driven. If she starts snapping at work, on her friends, and anyone in her way. DO NOT mistaken it for PMS!!! She is frustrated sexually..she has tried everything to avoid the feeling, but once the cooch cooch starts jumping,; ANYTHING IS BOUND TO HAPPEN...Yup, she will turn to the Exorcist on you and it will look like her head will do a 360 & steam coming from the top of her head & she will have you yanked up by the collard before you knows it.  All because you told her it is a piece of paper on the floor. 

OKAY, I may be exaggerating, a little. What ever the case may be. I warned you.  Like a car, get a tune-up, your oil needs changing, choose wisely, plan a head, be romantic (GREAT FOREPLAY),  let your hair down or your weave, if you bald let your woman give it a new glow, if your bald woman (try a wig~different characters is HOTT), be spontaneous, but  MOST OF ALL...know your partners name first and PROTECTION!! If you are married, just inspected his private parts & sterilize his equipment never can be to trusting & I'm sure he will enjoy the strokes...BUT if it been awhile...HURRY Up~~Put that condom on & RIp those clothes off & become ANIMALISTIC~You are a TIGER!!

{My Thoughts, My Feelings and in no way is this blog to persuade or encourage nor discourage you}

"Let It Go" {Part 2}

It's that time to discuss carrying old baggage.  When you break up with your significant other & I mean "DONE FOR GOOD"...you can't go back just cause you need some because that is still a conflict. When you stop taking phone calls, texts, drive-by, looking at pictures, laying in the bed with tissues, start going back out with your friends you been neglecting & start looking at other potentials, meeting a person & exchange numbers.  That is what I'm talking about~~LET IT GO!!

When you do finally proceed  or attempt to move on, leave that bag at home.. Who said what bag? The bag of spoiled leftovers, the bag with a funky smell, the bag that is holding you back because it so heavy, the bag you don't want to let go or dispose..PLS LET IT GO!!  Your new potential or possible (what I refer to as sponsors) DOES NOT want to hear about your exe.  Everytime your possible sponsor mentions a topic, you want to interrupt & have the nerve to be like, "Oooo, yeah my Exe use to do that, I remember we use to...Blah,Blah,Blah ....now that potential is not hearing a word except their own; which is telling them to end this fast, or should  I still try & fuck them, then get rid of them, nah....Im not feeling this after tonight its over.

Now don't be all surprised even if the date didn't go quite well, you came off like you need an distraction so they may come on pretty straight forward & try to get in those panties or drawals. Hey, two willing parties, fully grown adults can make a decision; in the first 2 minutes when you first meet, you already know where this will lead to. If there is no attraction or chemistry "LET IT GO"..but  the moment you arrive back to his or her place and you invite them in, you invited yourself to take advantage of the situation..Fuck the Exe cause Im sure they probably having sex as you are reading this.  Of course, the person is going to ask you would you like a drink (NO WATER or JUICE) a cocktail, some wine or if they want to speed up the process..."Let's say goodbye too old baggage & to new beginnings".  Of course, you have to tap glasses..Salute' and take that shot straight to the head~ you know what happens next & you can go ahead & blame it on the alcohol~~YEAH RIGHT! Now its on  and it had the nerve to be GOOD!!  DAM...... now you wondering what is going to happen next (women usually dwell over it) by this time some body is rolled over and snoring.

Next DO NOT think this encounter is headed to relationship status...DO NOT start texting the next day, calling, leaving messages because all that means is,  "Yeah, I put it down on them, they want more...it was good, should I hit it again why not". Now they finally text you back & you there mad,...but soon as you see that text or call...the madness disappears FAST! You go through all the petty talk, "what's up, nothing much, what's up with you, chilling same shit different day, WYD (what you doing), chilling, I might go out later, Ooo OK, well call me when you not busy or come back, OK I will, TTYL (talk to you later). Knowing damn well you want to say~~~ Come over I want to fuck & your response IS: I'm OMW (on my way).

PLS DO NOT  get mixed signals or expect more than a bedroom buddy.  this is what we call a "REBOUND".  This is the person that is just taking your mind of your Exe for a little while because if you try to take it more than what it really is.  You will get your feelings hurt once again. I always recommend to just go with the flow & it is what it is.  That's not your man or woman & you just met a week ago.  He or she barely knows each others real name, let alone anything else expect age & BD (Birth Day).

When you start out trying to meet someone new.  Let them know from the start what you are looking for, be precise, & cut to the chase. DO NOT bring that bag with you. DO NOT force the other person into something that doesn't exist.  Find other things to do to keep yourself busy so you will be so consumed that you wont have time to think about you Exe or your Rebound.. if you are still in LOVE with your Exe.  I do not see anything wrong with telling them how you feel or even attempt to reconcile, but if they are adamant and moved on~~ its time for you to take some time & get to know you again after coming out of a relationship, it I not health to jump into another so soon because you will meet many possibles and it wont last because you have not healed from your previous romance. Go head & meet you someone that treats you decent and become friends with benefits if you choose , but if you keep meeting lames on some new game..keep it moving and ~~~**LET IT GO**!!!

{These our based on MY views, My thoughts, & I am not encouraging or discouraging anyone to take what I say in consideration}

When to Let It Go

I can post million of things to LET IT GO~ well I may be exaggerating, but Any Who...Anyone or Anything that is useless~(ex. Of useless~ you had those jeans for 5yrs & it's no longer your size)....LET IT GO!
If you are being abused, mentally, verbally, psychologically, physical..IT'S Time TO Go..in this situation IT'S TIME TO GAIN STRENGTH & SAY NO MORE! If you have children...start planning your escape plan..You better re-enact the late Great "Harriet Tubman"....
Listen what I am about to tell you (based on my thoughts) if not for you do it for your children because it will be a repeated cycle (you no I love & work with kids). Plan carefully & it is all about timing. Get everything you need, start stashing; (clothes, money, food) BUT YOU MUST REMAIN NORMAL~don't get your ass beat on the day of your Runaway! Treat & do what the abusers says. We know about the boiling of grit, don't you? (if not we can discuss that later) HELL with the GRITS!
Now before I go further  REMEMBER HAVE EVERYTHING  YOU NEED PACK IT UP {PACK THE CHILDREN TOO} I SAID HAVE A PLAN~ SO YOU SHOULD HAVE EVERYTHING IN THE CAR....You don't have a car? The abusers never allow you to drive & it's only one vehicle? EXCUSES....you have friends or family & even a neighbor; {they all have been wanting  you out of this situation} IDC if it's the PoPo... just have them take you to your PLANNED Safeway.
You are STRONG..YOU CAN DO THIS...I know your abuser has said many times"your nothing, you'll never be nothing & not going anywhere" GET THAT OUT YOUR HEAD...Have all weapons in place (oh, you didn't expect this part? It's part of the plan REMEMBER)Gloves, Hammer, screwdriver, a whip, chains, extension cord, knives, forks, spoons, bat, pipe, hangers{you going to hang them up to dry..just continue to read} put them in every location in your home. Now, no one is worth your freedom! So this is not to go for the kill, but it's called "Feel my Pain, Take a walk in my shoes for one day".....You are all ready! Dinner is over, carry on with your regular duties...because you are about ready to ATTACK when they are relaxed & at their weakest (sleep stage). Keep a Pot of water on low & if they ask why you boiling water..just say you read somewhere that you should sterilize your utensils because of leftover bacteria{After all I am still a licensed Food Director}. They will just let it go.
When they get out that shower (your stuff..{even the children} better be in that car!!!) or when they are sleep. Get that whip (cause your going beat them like you played a role in the movie "Roots") fork for some stabbing, spoon, I have No ideal..just have it! Or when it's time even if they are sitting watching tv or reading..dump that pot of water that should've been boiling for awhile now..leave utensils in the pot so the metal will cause more burning....I gave you very descriptive details....Now it's your turn! BASICALLY, REMEMBER YOUR TORTURE & BEAT THEIR ASS...if they charge after you & try to ram you into something....GET the next weapon, hard iron skillet where you land (I did say put weapons all over the house) & PLEASE DON'T FALL whatever you do...use them hot spoons {you know to keep them gloves on through this entire process}or use your thumbs & apply pressure on eyeballs. While their hollering..GET the extension cord & continue to whip their ass...but wrap that extension cord around their wet body..do I need to say more....RUN YOU CRAZY BITCH..LIKE FORREST GUMP!!! Be out & SEEK COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY ONCE YOUR IN A SAFE ZONE.

PSA**{These are MY thoughts..MY actions I will never encourage or discourage anyone to use these techniques}*** I'm Just Saying "shrugging  my shoulders.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This blog "LET IT GO" Will continue in parts. ★STAY TUNED★

Is it Envy or Jealousy

I try not to use the word hate or hater because it is a VERY powerful word.  We have heard that for awhile now (remind me to look up who was the first person that used the term hater) sometimes it is just envy that can turn into jealousy. I have never been a hater are envious but to a certain extreme I am jealous when it comes to my man!

We as a nation are descendants of American-African I will discuss why I rephrase American-African instead of African-American another day, but I like to see people doing well, especially when it is a minority.  I admire and respect a person who has earned success.  We have let materialistic things define us and that is not how you should perceive success.  You still stay humble and yes, you may have always had taste for the  finer things in life or acquired a taste from becoming successful.  Go ahead and treat yourself & buy that $200,000 dollar car, that 2.5 million house & all designer made clothes (I hope you don't have to use your children's education funds down the line when things get tight) but I will never hate, but I will congratulate.

I know you know someone who brags or boast about what they have & every time you try to change topics, it ALWAYS seem like they reverse it & we end back on a topic all about them! Take heed<< Watch those kind of associates, acquaintances, friends, and even your own family members because they are watching you more than you know.  They act as if they care & may ask you "how's everything going"...keep your answer short & precise because some people you think you know well are the ones who like to tell.

People love to hear your problems or worries,  they may "act" like they are naturally concerned about you, but  they really do not  want to talk about your success or what you been up to because... LET'S not forget..."IT'S REALLY ALL ABOUT THEM". They define themselves "materialistically" and feed off of negativity. But like they say; "Everything that glitters isn't Gold".  They seek out the person they see as  Competition and  when they see you as their opponent,   they are really informing you about their ammunition& preparing for battle.  They will inform others that "they think" is part of their teams & only tell them the bad things you revealed so they can use it as a form of weapons later (as needed).  They brag & boast about their self  because you are the only one who will still listen because they've told so many people about their so called "Gold" when it is really just "Gold plated".  These are the ones who may act as if they have it all, but really do not.  Their life is miserable, lonely, depressing, they seek attention like a "newborn" baby and I AM NOT YOUR MOMMA!

I have never been into competition, {except in elementary} when we had Olympics & spelling bee's (by the way, I won), but I do not compete because WE ALL can accomplish our goals & live out our dreams, with the right people on our team.  With determination, positive attitude, faith, desire & focus you will achieve just as they have or even better,

But do not let materialistic things define who you are. You do you & let them do them. You will not have to walk the walk or talk the talk because they will notice a different stride & how you carry yourself with your head held high<< because do not forget; you are a threat to them & they been watching you because they been seen the potential in you. As they say & yes I will repeat this one; "Let your haters be your motivators"***LOVE YOURSELF FIRST NO MATTER WHAT**

**THIS IS A PUBLIC SAFETY ANNOUNCEMENT**

 HAVE A SAFE & BLESSED 4TH OF JULY!!!

 

 

Let's Talk about it or NOT

Let's get this over with and it is a touchy situation with many opinions and some may refuse to face the facts and try to ignore it.  Like I tell people, some things we can not ignore because it is not going to magically disappear & can escalate.
I myself personally am not a fan of Politics, but Politics chose me; why do I say this? Things we try to escape or dislike will some way or somehow end up being part of our lives, whether we like it or not.
I simply wanted to change my work atmosphere after dealing with Health care Facilities for over 10 yrs. I wanted something more stable, a little more challenging, great benefits & retire.  Well I thought I found just what I was looking for, but this "new challenge" brought on more than I expected.

I had a very laid back position (because I was the Boss aka Bossette), but did not see something already boiling over in this pot and I went in not knowing what to do, but I based my experience and I did not want the pot to boil over so I stirred it and I ended up in the mix. I wandered in to the forbidden world of "Politics".
I never discussed politics, engaged in any conversation about politics or asked anyone their views on politics. If I hear people talking about political issues, I excused myself. It was too late to jump out that pot that I stirred up; after all I am a team player & what kind of boss would I be if I didn't help.  So now that I am in this world I was told to play the game, so I did & I have no regrets and I thank my previous job for all they taught me & for teaching them what I stood for. 
I realized I wasn't going to retire from there because of the Political bullsh!t, but lets just say; I dealt with it long enough to have a pension.  I know you are wondering, WTH is her point?
Why do we dislike Politics in our own community, as a country, as an individual? Is it because it affects us all? Let's look at the biggest Political debate that is going on now & I will leave it there...."Same Sex Marriages". Sorry, I had to LOL! **Freedom of Speech**

Reflection of what I see in a mirror

New Times or New Fools

I remember when a relationship was a REAL relationship.  What happened to dating & romance? Gentlemen opening doors for you & Take you to Romantic Rendezvous?
Where did we go wrong? What part of the game is this? I have no problem paying the bill when you go out on a date. I do still believe a REAL man's EGO will not expect his woman to do it all.
Nowadays, men are STAY at home dad's, I noticed they have taken on a woman's role. You meet a man these days & hangout; the next day they are asking can you pay their cell phone bills, gas money & please pray it's not their birthday, they now tell you in advance what they want. Gucci..Louie this & that.
Relationship is equal but I think a man should still do a little more. I lowered the percentage...70% men should be responsible for taking charge & the woman will do the rest. WE may give you 30%, but how much is it when your a working mom, have to attend to the children, cook dinner, clean & MOST OF ALL~~ Keep your man happy.
The game has changed, but my old school rules still apply & if you can not hold your position, you will be impeached & DO me a favor, leave the gate open because it is still some REAL MEN left. So what you won't do...another will.