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"I DO or Don't I"

THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN COMPARE TO HAVING THE ONE YOU LOVE FINALLY PROPOSE TO YOU.. ONLY OTHER ACCOMPLISHMENT IS SEEING THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILD.

We all go through life wondering what career or path we want to take in life, do we want to have children and do I want to get married.  The world has changed and those traditional theories have somewhat resolved into this new day ERA of the Millennium.  Some women & men are having children at an older age, whereas; before there was pressure from family members and society.  If you were close to 30 and no husband or children, you were considered an "OLD MAID".  Now some, choose to have a career first before bearing children. But we do not know when or how fast you may advance in your career & what about being financially equipped?  Babies & children are VERY costly. 
Now that you have achieved the level of success to your expectation, what about companionship.  Most people tend to focus so much on their life& throw themselves in their career that they do not have a social life.  Now, you have the success & no one to share it with.  Now the clock is ticking and your ready to build a future.  This consist of a finding a mate & producing children. You  begin the search process and may have been off the scene for quite some time  so searching for "THE ONE" is your main goal. 
You look back at your previous relationships and after trying the club scene, you realize that is not the greatest place to meet your future mate.  For GOD SAKE! You are looking for "THAT ONE" that has all the qualities you are looking for.  You realize that starting a relationship at work is also not the best ideal  Now you have resorted to blind dates, sexless nights, & social media sites.  You run into several weirdos & finally you think you have met "THE ONE".  Until, you find out that person is not who you think they are or the inevitable happens (their already in a relationship or married).






It takes time to get to know someone, but your start feeling like you are running out of time.  You may resort back to what I refer to as a "Throwback".  A relationship you were in at one time and basically thought long & hard on the best candidate, but you are soon reminded, why that relationship ended.
Women have options; surrogates, adoption, In Vitro Fertilization, freezing eggs, but you want to do it the old fashion way.  Finding your true love! You gone through several relationships and a couple or a few you may have thought they were the ones. But, there is no better feeling in finding "THAT ONE".  Someone you feel you have gotten to know pretty well, the romance, the affection, the support, the charm, the laughter and before you know it, time has passed and both of you are thinking "what is next".
Most women are waiting to hear those words or at least that commitment and the engagement & before he can pop the question, you are already saying "I DO"!
The ring is beautiful, but sometimes you expected more, but at this point; it doesn't matter because you have a fiance.  You are now engaged &can not wait to share this milestone to the WORLD.


NOW, things are starting to get a little bumpy.  The relationship may not be living up to our expectations.  They say that marriage changes a person.  The day that ring is placed on your finger.  You gain this confidence, your thinking to yourself "I got her/him". We're going to live happily ever after. You did all the preparations for the wedding or now you are married and what he/she use to do, has changed. Then all of a sudden, the relationship is just not working out.
This topic has been a very controversy topic lately {before the government} shut done.  If the engagement or marriage dissolves, Should the woman/man return the RING!! The symbol of your love that once was cherished and unforgettable. 

I  recently found a couple a mementos that are worth good money.  I thought should I pawn it, that quickly left my thoughts.  I remember the last few rings I acquired over the years, I eventually stop putting them on and gave it to my daughters (BIG MISTAKE) she didn't cherish them like I thought she would.  But, how could I expect her to? They had symbolic meaning to me!  Some people say you are still holding on.  I do not believe that to be true.  I feel that it was a gift and besides that.  It meant something to me. 

Some people are agreeing if the marriage or relationship is dissolved that it should be returned.  There are a few cases that people are actually fighting & suing the other person to return the ring and other valuables that were given.  At some degree, it is like a prenuptial agreement and it can depend on how much the items cost.   If it is not written, notarized or made clear~HELL2DANIZZOT...YOU ARE THE WEAKEST LINK.  I EARNED THOSE THINGS, YOU GAVE IT TO ME FOR BETTER OR WORST & I AM KEEPING IT!

Is it worth the argument or headache? I figure, it can't be anymore stressful than breaking up or all the previous arguments.  I will even compromise, we can sell the ring & split the money, but what you will not do, is give it to the next chick. Whether you are so over it, it still was given to YOU. It makes you think of the good times you shared, but also it makes you think of the bad and that's when you take the ring  and put it back in its original box and put it up...waaayyy back in the closet somewhere.  What I think is unhealthy is still wearing the ring after the break up and it is clear that their will be no reconciliation.

SO NO "I DO NOT" THINK THE RING SHOULD BE RETURNED TO SENDER. THE ONLY THING YOU WILL GET IN RETURN IS UNPAID BILLS THAT YOU LEFT.

**AS ALWAYS~THESE ARE STRICTLY MY OPINION AND IS NOT TO INFLUENCE, DISCOURAGE NOR ENCOURAGE MY THOUGHTS**

 

 LOVE..HAPPINESS & PEACE!